3 Ways to Get Better at Saying “No”

3 Ways to Get Better at Saying “No”

Hi, I’m Fei, and I’m a recovering Yes-a-holic. For most of my life, “No” has been a dirty word. I’ve always been a people pleaser. Not only did I grow up in a collectivist culture, there’s something about playing a part in another person’s happiness that helps me feel...
I Assume the Best for You

I Assume the Best for You

I’ve noticed over the years that if a Cuddle Sanctuary regular hasn’t attended in a few months, that person often feels they need to explain to me why it’s been so long. Like they feel guilty. What they don’t know is that I trust each person’s process. In other words,...
Thank you for Taking Care of Yourself

Thank you for Taking Care of Yourself

I had a dream last night where I was a at a restaurant. At the table next to me, there was a tall man. He heard I was a “hugger” and came over get a hug. I said, “Hold on a minute!” I wasn’t ready for this hug; I wanted to slow down the interaction. He paused briefly...