How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

How Do I Know If I Have Consent?

If you’ve been on social media over the past week, you may have noticed your feed being flooded with #metoo and #Iwashim posts. It’s been a heavy week for many. Some of us have been reliving past traumas. Others of us are grappling with the fact we’ve been...
Are You Starving For the Feminine?

Are You Starving For the Feminine?

I picked up David Deida’s book, Way of the Superior Man to understand men better. It was a goldmine. Chapter 23 is called “Your Attraction to the Feminine is Inevitable.” In it, Deida explains that the feminine can bring the masculine a “wave of refreshment” and can...
3 Ways to Get Better at Saying “No”

3 Ways to Get Better at Saying “No”

Hi, I’m Fei, and I’m a recovering Yes-a-holic. For most of my life, “No” has been a dirty word. I’ve always been a people pleaser. Not only did I grow up in a collectivist culture, there’s something about playing a part in another person’s happiness that helps me feel...
I Assume the Best for You

I Assume the Best for You

I’ve noticed over the years that if a Cuddle Sanctuary regular hasn’t attended in a few months, that person often feels they need to explain to me why it’s been so long. Like they feel guilty. What they don’t know is that I trust each person’s process. In other words,...