Consider how different family’s interact when it comes to touch. Do you come from a family that’s a bit aloof – where hugging is rare and hand shakes are more acceptable? Or perhaps you come from a brood where hugs are expected and saying “no thanks” would be considered rude. This blog is about the dynamics between parents and children.

It’s a wonderful symbiosis when parents and kids can enjoy warmth, snuggling and togetherness. One of my favorite childhood memories was watching TV while tucked into the crook of my mom’s legs while she curled up on the couch. I also remember walking in between my mom and dad holding each of their of hands. I would beg them to do “One two three upsy-daisy” where they would both lift me off of the ground with every upsy-daisy. (I would do that forever if they let me.)

My friend has a photograph framed in his home of a big man in a swimsuit sleeping face down on the beach. On his bare back is the man’s tiny son conked out also laying face down. The photo is a reminder that some of the sweetest moments in life are free. It also makes me think and that some of the rewards of being a Mom or Dad are priceless.

But does it ever happen that parents can rely on their young children too much for their needs for affection? I’m not referring to the heartbreaking cases of sexual child abuse, I’m talking about something more subtle and maybe more common.

I once met a Mom who had a kid with autism. As a single parent who craved connection, she found herself feeling hurt by her kid’s aversion to it. This created a painful pattern that frustrated them both: Mom needs a hug. Child doesn’t like hugs. Repeat.

By the time she attender her first Cuddle Sanctuary workshop, her “touch tank” was quite empty. Finding this new avenue for connection helped her “fill up” without having to pressure her relationship with her child. The result was more harmony at home.

If you know a parent who could use some TLC, send them our way. And if that parent is you, you’re not alone. Come “filler up” at Cuddle Sanctuary.

That’s it my friends. May your holidays be warm and delicious.