I’m in Florida right now because my dad is dying. I’m sitting in the bedroom across from his. A loud oxygen machine whirs incessantly to confirm that my father – for now – is still here. My brother is in there sharing (loud) stories and memories of my dad. I’ve taken a needed break from the sad room.
I’ve always known that this time in my life would be a rite of passage. I had no idea that being a “cuddle friendly” family member would help me through it. Having the habit of closeness in my day-to-day life is making me a go-to person for giving and receiving comfort:
I hug my mom in the kitchen.
My niece discovers that she likes to be the “baby bear” while I play with her shampoo-fresh, long hair.
I caress my father’s hair and face as his breath becomes ever more shallow…
I’d be happy to hear your words of comfort during this profound moment in my life. In the meanwhile, my oxytocin levels are at a premium.
PS: I’m the little one in the photo with the bangs.
First of all Thanks for share this important moment..
And asking for what you want/need.. I hear support.
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I hope you have/develop strength even if you are not 100% ready yet walk forward through this kind of pain.
I also wish for you find time in healthy ways to take small breaks each day to heal, encourage to eat enough food (even better spend time with a good nurturing friend/s) and reflect what can my done. (and challenge that idea “what can be done”) To remember your father who he was in your eyes… those best moments that you had of him? To contrast to this what moment what made him feel more human?
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It was also great to hear that your skills. That you develop to support others have made BIG difference today. I you could’ve had a different outcome.
With Love and support, Chris
Thu, 11 Apr 2019..#15..12:10:41 PDT
Gosh, what beautiful words, Chris. Thank you.