My Return to Light
A Friendly Reminder A few weeks ago I had a Zoom call at 5:00pm with my friends, Carmen and Stella. We began with a quick check in. “How are you?” I went first. I told them that I was having the typical feelings that occur at sundown. “You know, despair and a sense...
How to Deal with Unintentional Arousal When Cuddling
“What if I accidentally get aroused? What if my cuddle buddy does?” These concerns are an unspoken worry for many people who want more soothing touch in their lives. At Cuddle Sanctuary, I define cuddling as a platonic experience that is independent from sexual...
Whose Land Have I Been Cuddling On?
I went to the Vancouver International Film Festival last month. At the top of the festival website is a Land Acknowledgement that includes this: As an organization founded and predominantly directed by settlers and immigrants, we understand our responsibility to seek...
My Take on “National Dessert Day”
Today is National Dessert Day. It’s nice to have someone pump their fist at my choice to have dessert given how much of a fan I am. (Nondairy ice cream in a bowl with sliced bananas is my latest crave.) I also have to notice how often I want dessert: Every damn...
Loving What You Do
"If you love your job, you'll never work a day in your life." Years ago, when I would come across that quote, I felt annoyed. Good for you, Mister Who Ever You Are. Truth is, I was jealous. At the time, work for me was tedious, and I was underearning. I had an...
Apt Advice for Yogis and Cuddlers
On Sunday, my friend Tamara invited me to go to Griffith Park for donation-based yoga and a nature walk - all guided by a lovely human being named Michelle Chua. Michelle's guidance was kind and loving. She had a gifted way with words as she invited us to connect with...
Meet a Renaissance Man Who Cuddles
I met Trevor James when he applied to Cuddle Sanctuary’s Certification Program for Professional Cuddlers in early 2021. As you’ll see, he is a fascinating person. JEAN: Hi Trevor James! Would you introduce yourself to us? TREVOR: Yes! I’m Certified Touch and Cuddle...
The Wisdom of Trauma
A few weeks ago, I went to a touch positive event and had such a great time. It was pleasure to alternate between conversation and introverted people watching. Mixed in with the social enjoyment, I also had an experience with a participant that pushed my boundaries....
Two Flirts and Two Dogs
As a non-married person with no kids in a family-oriented neighborhood, I found myself feeling lonely as I would go on local errands or take walks. Disconnected. That’s why I set a goal with my coach, Angela, having to do with being more neighborly. I told her I would...
Sunday Afternoon Cuddles with Susan
I’m seated on the stairs outside of a local apartment building waiting for Susan Lee to let me in. It’s 4:00pm, and I’ve had a lazy, lovely day already. I roller skated on the beach earlier and now I’m showered and fresh. Susan welcomes me with a smile and a hug, then...