Hygge: A New Favorite Word
One word says it all In the times in my life when I’ve felt lonely in Los Angeles, I had no idea that across the world the Danes and Norwegians could have described what I needed in one simple word: Hygge. Hygge (/ˈhjuːɡə/ HYOO-gə or /ˈhuːɡə/ HOO-gə) is a mood of...
“Touch Deprivation Badly Impacted My Life”
A record eleven new people signed up for Cuddle Sanctuary’s first event of 2020, and I’m not surprised. The New Year is a terrific time to make bold steps for personal growth and transformation. If you want to bring more closeness and connection into your life, this...
Leave Justin Timberlake Alone
A Professional Achievement For the past few months, I’ve been hired to work on television and film sets as an Intimacy Coordinator. Last week I got to experience a dream come true. I was flown out of state to work on a film “on location.” Working on location on a...
Attunement
I’d like to share a really personal story. One time, a boyfriend and I were fooling around and working towards having sex. The penetrative kind. Typically we were a cooperative couple and the sex we had reflected that. But this time was different. All at once, before...
False Accusations (Part 2)
Last time I told you about the sex ed talk I gave at a conservative university. One of the students asked me how he can avoid false accusations, and I fumbled. Today, I’ll share how I might handle it next time and who I turned to for help. Tactics The student asked a...
Men: How Do You Protect Yourselves From False Accusations? (Part 1)
Have I told you that sometimes I get invited to speak at universities to give sex education talks? (I probably already told you because I’m so proud of that fact!) I treasure the opportunities when they come my way. Last year I presented at Idaho State University. The...
Reprieve From Perfectionism
I was having fun It was Friday afternoon, and I was feeling mighty proud of myself. A week before I’d invested in shared office space at a place called Cross Campus. I no longer spent the day working at my home office feeling isolated. Now I was happily working among...
I Was Resistant: Now I’m a Believer (video)
I owe it all to my friend Samantha Hess from Cuddle Up to Me in Portland. Sam was deep into her professional cuddling business when we met. At this point Cuddle Sanctuary was really experienced at leading events. Rather than be competitive - true to the spirit of what...
I Got the Best Birthday Gift
Today’s my 49th birthday. I wanted to share with you a wonderful development - a birthday gift that I wouldn’t have dreamed to ask for. The Rolling Stone Article Last October, a few people who know me well sent me an article in Rolling Stone that described a new...
Will They Make Fun of Me? (video)
I received an email from the producer of a YouTube series called UnderVlogs. They wanted me to teach their group of Instagram influencers how to be professional cuddlers. And of course they needed to capture the experience on video. I was skeptical I checked out their...